Self Confidence. The trait we lack most when we aren’t happy with who we are or what we look like.
Having no confidence in yourself, or your looks and abilities can really wear you down and destroy you as a person.
You have been working on changing yourself to become a better person by eating right and exercising. Now lets work on the internal stuff, which is the most important.
What I’m going to do is give you a few tips and a couple of tricks to get the confidence that you’ve always wanted and needed.
With this new self-confidence you can get the guy, girl or job that you have always wanted, but never had the guts to attempt.
The first thing you need to do before you can move forward is realize that you are not the same person that you use to be. This may be the hardest thing that you do or have done up to this point. I have struggled with this and still continue to struggle sometimes.
When you go most of your life looking and feeling a certain way it can weigh heavy on your soul. You start to believe the mean things people say to you and get use to the way they treat you.
When you first transform yourself, it can be scary, to go from John Goodman to Ashton Kutcher, but you have to convince yourself that you are not the overweight, unhappy person anymore. He is long gone and its time to welcome the new handsome and charming guy. 😉
This will take time but there are certain things you can do to build the confidence.
So I’m going to list a few tips. Hope it helps.
Tips to gaining confidence
Put yourself in situations in which you can feel good about yourself and your accomplishments. Hanging out with people you haven’t seen in a while or putting yourself in a position to be noticed.
Hearing that you look good will convince you, that you do, even when it is hard to believe.
You won’t realize what you look like, ever. I still can’t comprehend what I look like. I see pictures and I laugh.
You need to approach your sexual desires. If you see a woman that you think is attractive, it is important for you to give a smile and just say hello.
Saying hello with a sincere smile is all you need to do. The more smiles and hellos that you get from attractive people, the better you will feel about yourself and begin gaining confidence.
If a smile is reciprocated then there is interest. This approach can be used as a segue into a conversation.
You can’t look at it as an attempt to pick them up, because that leaves room for rejection, and rejection is not what we want to happen.
Smile. Hello. What’s your name?. Where are you from?. You are very beautiful. It was nice meeting you.
Walk away. And repeat. Keep it short and sweet. If they want more they will come get it.
Doing this a few times will get you use to speaking to the opposite sex or sexual desires. All in which will add to your confidence.
Don’t be afraid of rejection. You have been rejected your entire life and so it became a part of who you are.
No, it was who you were.
New body, new outlook and new mindset will transform you into the confidence bearing stud that you’ve dreamed of being, and with good reason.
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. You can’t live in fear. You’ve done that for too long already. It’s time to move on and become the person that you want to be.
I’m not saying be cocky or tell them how good you look.
I am saying, be real, be the person that you’ve always wanted to be, express your feelings and be confident.
You’ve always been beautiful on the inside, but now you’re just as beautiful on the outside.
Be yourself, carry a conversation and fear nothing, the best is yet to come.
You have an infinite amount of first chances. Use them up.
Each day smile and say hello to someone, and if nothing else, you may just make their day.